Historically, in a precident set by Freud, the belief by lay and professional people was that grieving people should feel their feelings and then close the door on their grief and move on in their lives, more or less.
Researchers now believe that for many bereaved people, continuing bonds with the deceased is a a normal part of healthy adaptation (to loss) Klass & Walter, 2001; Klass, Silverman, and Nickman, 1996; Wortman& Silver, 2001.
There are four common ways in which bonds with the deceased are maintained.-sensing their presence, talking to them, asking for guidance or making life choices based on how they lived or what they valued, and talking about the deceased.
These experiences are common, normal and adaptive.
