Gifts of the Season

The commercialization of the holidays is one of the chief complaints of most Americans.  I suggest a new take on gift giving and gift taking. A gift is a transfer of something without the need for compensation.  It is a voluntary act requiring nothing in return and can be anything that makes the receiver happier or less sad.  In this season of gift -giving,  I encourage you to consider giving yourself the gift of comfort and joy. Give yourself time and permission.  You may find yourself  feeling sad, numb, angry, fearful, guilty, or just plain overwhelmed as you make your lists, hear carols, see decorations, make dinner, attend church or synagogue. This is normal and expected when dealing with change and loss.  Share your sadness and tears with friends and family who may also be hurting.  Allow time to grieve what has been lost or is missing and be kind to yourself.